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Welcome to the Akashic musings podcast. My name is Laura Mazzotta and I will be your guide during the sacred experience. I'm an Akashic healer and teacher, and I've also been a therapist for almost 20 years. This podcast is your go to opportunity for all things healing, inspiration and Empowerment. I will be sharing potent wisdom from divine intelligence in the space of the Akashic Records. For more understanding of what the Akashic Records are, I encourage you to listen to episode one, or head over to my website at WWW dot v Akashic therapist.com. I'm so grateful to have you here, receiving the powerful energetic shifts that radiate through these messages. Just by listening in you're doing your part to raise the vibration of the planet, and fully realize our natural state of wellness and vitality. Without further ado, here's today's episode.
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Hello, welcome back to another episode of the Akashic music podcast, I'm so excited to chat with you today about attachment. This is something that is really near and dear to me, because when I was in college, we had a opportunity to be a senior fellow during our senior year, and there were only three people each year that got chosen to be a Senior Fellow. And what that means is that you spend the entire year not taking any other classes, and you just do a an interdisciplinary research project to the entire year between two different disciplines. And I applied for this senior fellow experience. And mine was across attachment and religion, because I wanted to see how attachment styles with our parents impacted and influenced our attachment styles with God. This was fascinating to me. And I had done a lot of research on the psychology of religion. And I got it. So I was one of the three people who was a senior fellow in my senior year in college. And I created assessments, I created surveys, I distributed all of the packets to not only college students, but also to local schools, to the children and their mothers and did in person interviews with all the children to go through their assessment for not only attachment to their parent, but attachment to God. So I ended up having to limit this study to just attachment to mom, because if I had too many variables, I wasn't gonna be able to do it over the course of one year. And not even one year it was like It's like nine months, right for the school year. So, so I ended up limiting it to moms, even though I wanted to do both parents. And it was so cool, because what I found was exactly what I hypothesized, which is that a secure relationship with your mother is a direct reflection of how securely attached you are to God. And I love this because it gives us the opportunity to really understand how much impact we have on the next generation, and how much it how important it is for us to be able to not only cultivate our relationship with God, but to be able to be really conscious and present in our relationships with our children, so that they can develop a relationship with God if they choose that, right. And so
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I want to go through here a little bit of the attachment styles and some of the information that I've been able to uncover, since I've been in the spiritual world more deeply over the past six years. So secure attachment is when you feel like you can go and navigate the world and do your thing and always have a secure, secure base or a safe haven to return to to kind of check in. So it's kind of that image from the strange situation, which was the primary research project that was done decades and decades and decades ago on attachment theory with infants and their caregivers. And what would happen in this is that for secure, securely attached children, they would be in a room with a bunch of toys and they would go play with the toys and they would just kind of like come back to their mom and give her a
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hug her gave her a kiss or just kind of touch her leg, and then go back and do their thing. So they knew that they were safe to be able to explore their surroundings, because they had the secure base to return to. Whereas in anxious attachment, what they would do is they would, they would kind of oscillate back and forth with being able to be soothed by their parents. So they would go explore, and then they would come back. And sometimes they would have this almost maniacal, frantic response, when they would go back to their mom, they might cry, they might have a tantrum. But um, and then other times, they would come back and they'd be soothed. So there was an inconsistency and the level of soothing that they would receive from their mother. In avoidant attachment, they would this is really springing from neglect by the mother. And this is why avoidant attachment typically presents and that would that would present as the child would go out and explore, and never come back to the mom. Or if the mom tried to approach them. Or if they went close to the mom, they would really dismiss and push the mom away, like they had no interest. And there's a lot of anger that goes with avoidant attachment. So there's one other attachment style that was introduced later on in the game that was not part of the original study. And this is something called fearful avoidant attachment or disorganized attachment. This one's extremely rare. So we're not going to talk about this one as much. But really, that one is associated with both high anxiety and high avoidance. So you have kind of a mix of the avoidant attachment style and the anxious attachment style together. So the important thing to talk about here is, I'm a spiritual Empowerment coach. So I'm all about empowering myself empowering other people to be able to really mobilize and motivate themselves to heal in whatever area they desire, in addition to I believe that a big part of our healing is following our desires, and is actualizing our desires and moving forward on our mission and our vision on this planet. So
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I want to talk today about how we how do we repair some of these this anxiousness avoidant attachment. So with avoidant attachment, again, that was rooted in neglect. And really, the answer to that is to offer yourself long term consistency with secure attachment. Okay, because this is a situation where people were left to kind of take care of themselves and figure things out for themselves, including emotions. So this is when we get that trauma response of fierce independence, where they dismiss other people, they kind of avoid other people, and they're really avoiding intimacy. So the best way to really heal this is to offer yourself deep self nurturing, and also generously show and share your love with other people. So this is something that you may have to start with, with a a relationship that you feel pretty safe in or that you know, you can bank on pretty well. So I would start with that one first and cultivate that, because you're going to have a bit of a trauma response, possibly, you may have some anxiety, you may have anger come up, you may have some tantruming come up or some long standing resentment. So just make sure that you have a support system in place, if that's something that you decide to do with anxious attachment. Really, this is the one where you kind of go back and forth, you're kind of you sometimes you're sued, sometimes you're not.
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And what this comes down to is being unwavering.
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You want to make sure that you are sustainably maintaining this unwavering nature, of attention to yourself,
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of listening to your desires of listening to your body. This is what is going to help the most when you want to heal anxious attachment and really become a reliable source of your own safety. Because you have the ability to do that.
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The problem is that getting there does not feel comfortable. So I'm not necessarily going to feel like I can just choose to be unwavering if I've had anxious attachment my whole life. So this is another situation where you can start this being unwavering feeling by really embodying the god energy. This is something that I do in my sacred integration mastermind with spiritual entrepreneurs. We talk about having God drive your business. We talk about embodying the god energy because the God energy created everything. It created the universe that created us that created the planets, everything. So the fact that God could create all of this magnificence from nothing
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Write from just a void in the universe
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is miraculous. It's amazing. And so we have the ability to align with this energy, we have this energy within us. And we have the ability to immerse more deeply into it and become more intimately attached to it. So in both of these situations, whether we're talking about avoidant attachment style, or anxious attachment style, creating a long term relationship with God, is a brilliant, brilliant way to be able to move into secure attachment. Because God is unwavering. God is always going to be there, God is always providing for us infinitely loving us infinitely no matter what we do what we say. And this can be something that feels elusive at first, which is why I say it can be helpful to have that safe other in human form that you start this process with before you shift over to the unseen. But some people are going to be willing to jump right in and able to jump right in to cultivating this intimate relationship with God. And I'm promise you, it's going to help and it's going to secure you. And it's going to bring you closer and closer into that section of attachment. That's labeled a secure attachment. So even though you may feel like I, my parents aren't alive anymore, or I don't have a good relationship with them, or I'm still avoidant ly are anxiously attached to them, doesn't mean that all hope is lost, it means that you have the choice now as an adult, to bring yourself back into a secure attachment space, which is more empowered, because it's not empowering, to feel like a victim. It's not empowering, to feel like you have been dismissed or rejected or
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disregarded in your life. But you have a choice as an adult to be able to decide who you want to be and how you want to feel. So go into your body as many times as needed and listen to its messages. extract those lessons, allow them to inform your next steps. Allow yourself to have clarity from what you're extracting from yourself.
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And then cultivate this consistent, intimate, deep relationship with God. And allow yourself to see how much opens in your world. Because you think about it with the strange situation experiment that I was talking about. It's all about these infants exploring their environment. So think about how much more you can explore within you. And within your environment. When you have this secure attachment to God,
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I'm going to leave the link in the show notes here for the sacred integration masterminds, you can read more about it. But the women in this space are experiencing so much momentum. And so much expansion of opportunity and possibility already. And we only started on March 18.
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And they came right out of the gate ready to play. And it's so beautiful to see how much people stand in their power and really own who they are. Once they really deepen this relationship and continue to make that their their return point. Right, just like with the infant's they would return to their mom, they would touch them, they would hug them, they would just kind of note that they were there. And then they would go back to their thing, when we allow God to be that for us. And whatever decisions we're making throughout our day decisions, big or small, we are going to feel the same way we're going to be able to explore more, we're going to be able to bring more joy out of our environment, extract that joy, appreciate our experiences, and learn. We have more we're more amenable to learning when we have more space. And we have more space when we feel safer.
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So I encourage you to explore this because the only real sustainable unwavering relationship and unwavering attachment is going to be to divine intelligence is going to be to source because it's truly the only thing that's unwavering in our universe. So thank you so much for joining me for this conversation. I'll drop the link here in the show notes for the mastermind. Feel free to shoot me a message if you have any questions about this. I'm always happy to hear feedback. And if you'd love to take a screenshot of this as you're listening and share it to your story on Instagram, tag me at emerge healing & wellness and I will share it to my story with my audience as well and celebrate your fabulousness for committing to yourself by listening to this episode. Thank you so much and I will see you next week for another episode of the Akashic musings podcast.
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Thank you for joining me for this episode of the Akashic musings Podcast. I'm so grateful you're taking the time to integrate healing at the deepest level. If you loved this episode, connect with me on Instagram at emerge healing & wellness
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or contact me through my website at WWW dot the Akashic therapist.com I'll see you next week on the next episode of the Akashic musings podcast. Bye for now and have a wonderful week.
